Dear Mrs. A (renew version)

Experienced your sharing last night about you son, feelings arising from bottom of my heart, try to share my view and hopefully useful to you

From your sharing I feel that:

You are lack of appreciation, communication, faith and respect

You have very limited appreciation, communication, faith and respect over yourself and others especially ones close to you

Your son like anybody else is full of talents and gifts and you do not want to notice and admit this

You only choose to focus on his impairment and to make yourself angry and beg for others pity

Everyone has different gifts and impairment, it is up to you to choose what you focus on

Currently you only focus on impairments and attracted by negative labels of yourself and others

You need to aware and practice to focus on gifts and be attracted by positive labels of yourself and others

The world is full of good things and you need to practice to aware them, appreciate and thankful for them

You need to observe and understand your son’s feelings by learning to communicate with him

You do not appreciate and not thankful for having a gifted son

You have no faith in your son

You disrespect your son

You have not yet found out the way to communicate with your son so you do not understand why and how his feelings, his thoughts and actions

You son seems to be a symbol of insult to you

You do not appreciate and not thankful for what you have and what you not have

You only focus on his bad and never willing to notice his good

You feel unsafe

You want to control everyone and everything and when things and people out of your control, you have strong anxiety

You are highly alert at all times

You are extremely clever but extremely unwise

You are very poor in communication

You have poor interpersonal and social skills

You fire questions at who ever have a conversation with you and make others pressurised, uncomfort and unease

You love others lay a pity on you by trashing the image of your son

You created illusion to yourself and everyone else that you love your son so much

The truth is you love yourself and you spoil yourself with a greedy and selfish heart

You use the excuse that you love your son to cheat yourself and to cheat the world to cover up the fact of you spoiling yourself in order not to feel bad

You don’t want to lose him and feel bad so you grab hold of him till he cannot breath and he hates that and that’s why he punches you

You are being totally selfish

Stop being selfish

Let go

If you hate him why you grabbing hold of him?

Because you don’t want to get hurt, you control him to fulfil your own greed and secure feeling and this is not love

If he knows all the maps and roads in Hong Kong, surely he knows the way home, why following him around

Aren’t you being silly and making a fool of yourself and your son?

That’s why your son hates you

Because you makes a fool of him and insults disrespects and discriminates him

You are practicing and fulfilling your greed to the extreme by sacrificing your son

So far he is just a tool for you to fulfil your greed

Stop it

Let go

Communicate

Understand

Appreciate

Be thankful

Cherish

Faith

Respect

Let go