Communication 281012

Chinese families is very poor in communication

From mood problems to world problems starts with poor communication

Learning is about communicating well

Communication is about messages going in and out of our brain

Peace of mind is about communication

Peace is about communication

Happiness is about communication

Mental illness and cancer due to lack of communication skills

Suicide due to no communication

Every soul needs to learn to communicate to be free

Insults disrespect and discrimination originates from poor communication

Some thinks they are good in communication but actually they don’t have a clue in communication

Communication is about problem solving

Communication consist of questions and answers

No one can survive without communication

Respect and faith is the best form of communication

Thankfulness and appreciation is good for communication

Poor communication makes us moody and frustrated

Good communication makes us relax and enjoy

Destruct and self destruct due to poor communication

We are linked together by communication

Brainwashing is one way communication

One way communication drives us mad

One way communication is not sustainable

Only fools use one way communication

One way communication is negative and destructive

Dual way communication is respectful healthy and constructive

Friends is a good role for communication

Failure due to poor communication

Every successful person are brought up by people with good communications skills and with good heart

If you are good in communications you have a good heart

If you like communication, you love yourself and the world

You would suffer if you don’t know how to communicate

Success is about communication

Praying is about communication

Media is about communication

Business is about communication

Arts is about communication

IT is about communication

Politics is about communication

Every soul needs communication

Anything and everything needs communication

Illnesses is about poor communication

Medical care needs good communication

Education needs good communication

Relationship needs good communication

Friendship supports by communication

Transport is a form of communication

Computer and telephone is a tool for communication

Audio video photo and text are different forms of communication

We are a tool for communication

We cannot live without communication

Meaning and purpose of life is about communication

何以不貪得安？

何以不貪得安？
明天理
信神修佛何需貪
一切皆緣
有緣則來
無緣則去
不需也不可強求
隨緣隨遇則安

How to end greed?

How to end greed?

If you greed, you are not peace

If you peace, you are not greed

We are sensitive to different things starting from birth, when we become too sensitive on certain things and it severely affect our daily life, this is call ill and some seek treatments educations and further solutions

Communication social and interpersonal skills is key to any souls

Autism gifted super high IQ and mental patients lack communication skills makes them lost touch to and misunderstood by the majority

Communication is about in and out of messages from and to our brain

We get insults disrespects and discrimination if we don’t know how to communicate

Communication can bring us good family friends relationship and career and everything we need

Communication is key for learning and for explore and exploding our own inner gifts and strengths

Communication is about thankfulness and appreciation

With a thankful heart and appreciate everyone every matter and everything around you, you will be peace

Peace is not to control

Control forms anxiety

Control is greed

Greed is not peace

Peace is having no greed

The less you control, the more peace have

The more you control, the less peace you have

Greed comes with fear and hatred

Fear and greed

Personally was a perfectionist

I greed

I fear

I hate

I look for perfect

I need to win ten out of ten first hit

So I never do anything because I fear of losing

I wait till the best moment to make the 100% success hit but it never comes so I keep waiting and rotting

Anything include successful relationship and successful career is not 0 or 100% win or lose success or fail

It is a natural flow of fate

Believe in bite size

Believe in bit by bit

Nothing ever comes and goes 100%

Everything comes and goes gradually

We need to build up bit by bit

For good things, never say it too little and not do it

For bad things, never say it too little and do it

Baby learning theory

0-3 years learns everything quickest

3-8

8-12

13-18

18-24

24-30

Slows fragile non flexible and moulded along the age

Our biggest enemy is ourselves, our own fear, fear of losing, failing and getting hurt and not believing we can recover from injury and not believing we can achieve.

Baby learning is by all senses

Personally hate school learning especially grammar.

I love baby learning especially in languages with both success in English and mandarin.

When I see my mate james, he is pointing to something round in red color and he created sound in his throat and mouth shape as I observe and listen ‘red ball’

So I recorded his sound waves and mouth shape motions movements videos in my brain

Next time I see the same color and shape thing, I recall these info in my brain

These info in my brain send replica orders to my throat and mouth to produce same sounds and motions…red ball

This is how I learn languages quickly

But key is you need to find a friend that would not say you are wrong

Your mate must be keep on chatting with you as flows and never correct you because if he/she stops to correct you or repeat, your confidence will shatter.

Intuition直覺

Intuition直覺

Intuition is when we sense and receive messages

Signals sends to our brain

Brain calculates for best solutions to react and response

Then action response and react

All these step happen in millionth of a second in which we are not quick enough to realise or aware or believe it is true.  

Baby talk

Own a pet or owning a baby

Most people would use baby talk and pet talk to satisfy their own desire of being a control freak

I am adult

I am master

I am owner

I own you

I teach you

I train you

Listen to me

I am right

You are my pet

You are my baby

I shape you

I control you

You need to be how I want you to be

I know what I am doing and you don’t

I am better than you, although the world seems tough but at least I am tougher than you

I protect you

I have value

I have purpose in life

I am stronger than at least you

I am more success at least compare to you

I am clever at least compare to you

The truth is:

You are living in your dream and you drag your pet and your baby’s life along into the dark hole of your life created by generations of your family causing endless social problems to the world

You need to LET GO

Let go to set yourself and your love ones free.

LET GO

Obstacles

Obstacles

Learning obstacles may seen as one of the most disastrous obstacles in everyone of us especially in childhood.

We are all unique

We all have different gifts and obstacles

We are sensitive to different things

We all learn differently

We all have different learning patterns

We all have different learning styles

We all need to tailor made to measure our learning style to learn efficiently

We need to find out and know well our own gifts and obstacles in order to learn and grow happily

We need to observe and discover our best learning styles in order to enjoy learning and development

Learning should be a relaxed enjoyment

Learning should not be stress frustrated despair pressurized nor destructive or negative

We start to find out best way of learning out of school

Traditional schools is a chips factory but we are all potatoes

We want to be hand cut chips

We need to be respected but firstly we have to respect ourselves by putting away our greed

Schools is the graveyard for creativity and innovation dreams and free thinking

We need to enjoy learning and enjoy whatever we do.

If we hate something, DROP IT, QUIT IT, SLAP IT, SLAM IT, DUCK IT, FUCK IT

FULL STOP

Relationship

Relationship

Relationship is not ON/OFF button

Relationship is the Sun, the Moon, the Stars and the Sky.

Love is not Yes/No answer

Love is not Win/Lose game

Love is not control

Love is not to own

Love is not nervous stress anxiety

Love is not only for sex

Love is not a plan

Love is not one way street

Love is a relaxed comfort and peaceful feeling you enjoy

Love is to give out a relaxed comfort and peaceful feeling

Love comes slowly gradually unexpectedly

Love comes and goes naturally

Love never comes suddenly

Love is learn to give

Flexible

Flexible

Adapt n flexible are good but also means lack of confidence

Winners has strong adapt n flexibility try their best but key is to know when to give up n let go n not to take on others responsibilities till you breakdown or drop dead

Confidence can save you also can kill you

Confidence means you believe in yourself n believe in everything you do is absolutely right

Its lucky you got the direction right with confidence but what if you get it wrong and you still think you are right and you are in power or in control, you will kill everyone in your family or in your team.

Learning

Learning

Learning in school and university meant a great bored and pain to me even in the UK

Reason I found out after almost five years I left education is everyone including meself has gifts and obstacles in our personality and life include learning styles and ways

We could not exactly call these illness coz illness is just a word to describe certain so call minorities in which there is no fixed sample numbers to state what is majority and what is minority

Everyone is unique

We are all unique

We all have our own unique gifts and obstacles

Let not praise too much when we found something good nor blame too much when we found something bad coz it is just as it is

No one is normal

No one is majority

No one is winner

It is all relative

When we do not control by labels

That’s when we are in peace

We follow rules because we are greed

When we greed we are not settled and have no peace

Want peace?

Lessen the in and out labels and messages from our sense to our brain

When messages lessen and die down and the dirt settled at the bottom, the clean clear water on top is available for us to enjoy

It is peace.

Communicatist 溝通專家 馬碩鴻

Communicatist
溝通專家 馬碩鴻
Matthew ma the communicatist
溝通信任
降低要求

Peace

Peace of mind

Personally reckon, all living creatures look for peace of mind and all non living things look for balance of power.

Especially in medical health, ‘we look for a way that we will suffer the least and enjoy the most’, that’s the key to our living lifestyle and health trend and treatment.

Commercials creates hate, greed and fear to make us feel we should do something about it and drives ourselves hard to rob others so others can rob us.

Commercials and news creates negative energy implications to brainwash and hypnotise its audience, for the purpose of grabbing some bucks from others and to be able to being grabbed by others.

What we need is peace

Peace of mind. 

Jews and the US

Jews and the US

Jews are most clever and most smart peoples on earth but without any wisdom.

Anyone without wisdom is a fool.

Wisdom is peace and not creates hate through greed and fear.

Jews is loan sharks, immoral and unethical on business, this gets them money, power, financial wealth but comes with it hate, greed and fear.

Jews have no wisdom to know anything and everything: the harder you hit it against the wall, the harder it bounces back or shatters on your face.

Chinese saying is: you force a dog into a dead end tunnel and it will turn back and bite you so hard that you will cry for your mama.

Jews create social and financial and global peace problems for their own benefit, own profit and own good to the extreme, that’s act without wisdom, acts of fools.

The I implication

The I implication

I am a volunteer, I help you, you are ill and I am healthy, you are poor and I am wealthy

I am a nurse, I look after you, you are weak and I am strong

I am a doctor, I heal you, you are ill and I am well

I am a policeman, I catch you, you are bad and I am good

I am a priest, you are evil and I am holy

I am a counsellor, I counsel you, you are abnormal and I am normal

I am a fireman, I save you, you are in risk and I save you

I am an artist, I create, you have no talent and I am talented

Faith in patients

Communication is always lacking and communication is always poor between doctors and patients, it is both sides’ responsibility to communicate with each other.

Faith in mental illness and other brain related illnesses is in great lack and in great poor along side with communication.

Faith is needed by everyone, especially for patients.

Faith can be built up through effective communication.

Psychiatric hospital has always been related closely with the house of haunted, it is because patients are full of injustice, humiliation and resentment.

Imagine one day you wake up, you are in a white washed room facing the whitely coated psychiatric doctor with two strong male nurse “accompany” you to “protect” you

The doctor ask you some well designed psychological questions which you never have any knowledge on and never have any materials and model answers to revise on.

The doctor imply that he is there to help you and you can trust him totally to tell him how you feel.

You kindly and faithfully let out your pains and sorrows in words and the doctor stop you on the hard back when you just feeling great by letting your strong feeling out by words, and you soon realise…this few minutes of comfort comes in a lifetime of a dear price.

“The secret is you should not trust the doctors”

“If you need a chat, you need a friend or employ a trusted counsellor that is employ by you and not by other parties”

“Be sensible, use your head, never use your heart and never use any feelings when you are facing any doctors or medical persons.”

“The funny thing is the doctor imply you can trust him but he look for your correct act is without trust on him.”

“Doctor ask you to express your feelings and when you do so he knows you are ILL.”

“As a sensible person you do not trust strangers especially strange doctors.”

The doctor then signal your two strong guardian angels to transport you to your padded room with padded locks on your arms and legs and force needles and pills on you in the purpose of protecting you and helping you to turn normal.

After your injection and pills the side effects make you shake so hard you are like a motor, your piss and shit rush out of your holes and you cannot control any of it.

Ladies and gentlemen, this is not a dream not a story, this is true hard daily life that can happen to you me and anyone we love at any moment

All patients’ need is someone to share and understands their feelings.

No one should ever be labelled

I believe doctors keep patients ill for the purpose of paying their own dinner and feeding their own kid and I am sure one day they will become patients themselves to enjoy the privilege they provide to the innocent all these years.

In most cases patients’ family members have no faith in patients and trust the doctors will do the best for their love ones and many patients ended up being experimented on new drugs like rats after their family just sign anything comes on the table.

Now I call upon anyone and everyone to put this to light, to face solve and help with our fellow patients head on.

Are you brave enough or will you only choose to turn a blind eye on it till it either falls on the heads of your love ones or till it happens on you one day when you wake up…isn’t it a bit too late then???

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感恩者無求 便安得幸福 improved

感恩者無求 便安得幸福

越追求完美 便越渴求 感恩心便越少 便越貪 越嗔 越癡 便越多要求 便越難滿足 便越不安 便越不幸福

幸福的人沒要求 所以安 因有感恩心

當人追求完美到極 感恩心完全消失 便稱之為走火入魔 便成了瘋子 但如果慢慢練習感恩 便可變回幸福而安的人

所有敏感 包括情緒敏感 強迫 焦慮 不安 兩極分裂 屈燥 chur 都可用這感恩之法醫治

敏感症者 全因由 不懂感恩

感恩者無求 便安得幸福

小馬

感恩者無求 便安得幸福

感恩者無求 便安得幸福

越追求完美 便越渴求 感恩心便越少 便越貪 越嗔 越癡 便越多要求 便越難滿足 便越不安 便越不幸福

幸福的人沒要求 所以安 因有感恩心

當人追求完美到極 感恩心完全消失 便稱之為走火入魔 便成了瘋子 但如果慢慢練習感恩 便可變回幸福而安的人

所有敏感 包括情緒敏感 焦慮 不安 兩極分裂 屈燥 chur 都可用這感恩之法醫治

敏感症者 全因由 不懂感恩

感恩者無求 便安得幸福

小馬

罪只有一種 就是不懂欣賞

罪只有一種 就是不懂欣賞

福只有一種 就是懂得欣賞

The only sin is without Thankfulness

The only bless is with Thankfulness

Faith

Doctors and patients relationship lack of and in great need of trust faith and communication

Doctors contact hour with every patient only a few minutes, mainly by reading reports and government hospital always change doctors, private practice doctors are lack of experience.

Three minutes question and answer to prescribe medicine that the patients need to take for months or years that’s not sensible and not reasonable.

Feedback, close watch and follow up is in great need.

Many medicine after started there is no turn back

Patients looks for peace and comfort

Doctors looks for money and prevent responsibility

With these different aims and targets and doctors controls the patients treatment and medicine seems clear that patients peace and comfort target is out the window.

Respect and faith is needed between doctors and patients through verbal and written communication.

Mental

Mental

Mental illness is top illness in developed cities.

Many fell ill due to unnatural and polluted food and drink

Many fear to seek advice from professionals due to a stereotype and story as follow:

Mental illness is the illness of lack of trust and faith, we all think mental patient ‘don’t know what they are doing’ so no one have faith in them.

Mood patients don’t know how to express their own feelings through speaking writing and actions that’s why they stored up so much fear anger and hatred in them to exploding point because they care too much.

It is the most horror if there is no one have faith in you and force needles and medicines on you and their say its good for you but its actually good for themselves and others and you don’t know the way to stop them doing so.

Doctors would ask you very gently and nicely: now there, would you tell me honestly, would you ever think of harming yourself and others?

If you answer yes, they would have the right and responsibility to force needles on you.

What they expect is a lie, key is mental patient would not lie, if you ask the doctor the same question or if you ask them what if yes and what if no and see how they answer.

The doctor is messed up and conflict ideas in their way of dealing with patient, they ask: would you like to harm self and others?

Logic is if the patient is ill his or her answer is not trust worthy, base their answer to force needles on them, doctors is lunatic themselves

Patient want to kill because there is strong fear anger and hatred in them, we have to find out through speaking listening reading writing and communication with them.

Coaching them to communicate for them to express their own negative and positive feelings that is buried deep inside them and help them to communicate and bridging with others the general public and the world.

Key is to pin holes in this fear anger and hatred balloon to release the air before it explode.

NEVER force medicine and needles on them to make them too dull to think, this would make their inner anger increase creating a much much more danger state for themselves and others

It is like a pot of boiling soap (brain with mood illness), we want to drink (wellness) now, we pour ice(medicine) in the soup (brain with mood illness) but without turn of the fire(express feelings through communication).

Key is to turn off the fire and it would cool without have to pour ice to cool down and dilute the nice soup.

Counselling and clinical psychology is to speak out and write out and communicate well all your feelings is turning off the fire

Medicine is pouring ice on top, ice would dilute and mess up the soup (the brain) and make it taste not good(not healthy)

It is more silly to take medicine without expressing your own fear anger and hate through speaking and writing to the correct parties for example the on duty church staff that would help you.

Seems to me doctors only takes 3 actions increase decease and keep the same dosage of medicine and for them to pay their dinner they keep the patients ill and feed them with pills n needles and the giant medicine companies makes the medicine addictive in itself

So when you have little mood take medicine and have no turn back

We should seek clinical psychologist for non medicine advice first.

Life is about questions and answer in logic and expression of feelings, conversation with medicine doctors needs logic and with clinical psychologist and counsellor need expression of feelings.

Help

Harm and help are two basic human nature.

We harm others because we fear we anger and we hate because we lack of love

We help others because we are full of love and want to share our love with others

Family background and childhood is a key, when a person grow up in a not safe environment, he lives in fear and non safety anger hatred and greed so he has to protect himself

This protecting action harms others and makes others put off, people either run away or harm him in return, the more he is harm and not safe, the more fear anger and hatred he has and the stronger the repelling and resisting force to fight back to form a viscous circle

We can pray to God and express our feelings in details, communicate through languages, speeches and articles to express our fear anger and hatred, it is like pinning holes in a balloon to prevent it to burst.

We can help self and others through communication, mood problems originates from don’t know how to express our own feelings to others and no bridging with the outside world, if we communicate our feelings well through speeches and articles we would not have mood problems.

Expression of mood through speeches and articles needs daily practice bit by bit for it to be able to run smooth when needed.

Fear

Fear and love

Greed and hatred

We fear because we lack of love

We can get love from God or make our own and share it and do not expect anything in return to avoid getting hurt and injured.

We can create love and motivation from sports, arts and positive leisure activities and avoid compete compare and insult on win and lose

Human have fear which form greed and hatred so and because we compete compare and insult on the process and result.

From young we are taught to fear we cannot make a living when older so we learn and beat others in test exam and competitions

We have a group of friends so we bully and pick on ones that don’t communicate well who don’t have friends.

When we work and in sports games and even in art, we fear so we want to beat others to reach success for feeding ourselves and gain comfort

We fear, we greed for comfort and thirst for winning so we hate when we lose and we harm and destroy when we hate which creates more fear for self and others.

Praying to God does help and be aware of your own thoughts speeches and actions and be aware to stop to pass on any fear greed and hatred instead pass on the love of God to everyone you know and everyone you meet.

這個世界上 並沒有瘋子 只有不懂得 有效地溝通 表達自己內心感受的人

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Devil

Devil

We are directed by our mood, many try and learn to direct our mood but no one can tell they success or not.

Mood is well when balance, too high or too low imbalance mood irritates us.

Key is not to harm self and others and further these over high and over low mood when we experience them.

We have to communicate and express our feelings but key is to love and not to fear and harm in whatever we think say and act.

Pass on and spread the balance love comfort and peace, stop the imbalance fear greed and hatred wherever whenever whoever whatever however.

Christian

We believe in God simply because we have many problems to be solved and some wish that need or want to fulfil

And many say God can help us to solve these problems and fulfil these dreams and wishes

But the fact is, when we go to church everyone prays to god and our problems are out of the topic and our problems stays there rotten and untouched, dreams and needs are not fulfilled

Brothers and sisters always say I pray for you, god knows they really do, may be that’s all they do, even if they do I dont see much difference anyway

We wish every time when we go to church we can solve our problems and fulfil needs but result is completely opposite

At the end of every night, we go through process of praying and many procedures which adds onto our original problems.

Some say church is a place much more complicated than the outside world, when we think we can put all our problems down with god, can we really? It worth a real think again.

Fail

Fail

Dear those who fail:

Do things only within your own ability

Do what you enjoy and enjoy what you do

If we fail we should leave

If we fail again and again, we must leave

Personally forced myself to study and worked hard for being first fifteen rugby team, school prefect and head of house

Fact is due to discrimination I got none of them, everyday I attend school I was living in hell because fact proof I am an absolute failure.

Finally I got nervous breakdown because I force myself doing something out of my ability which I should have ran away and avoided for

Many champion and winners when they shared their story they shared persistence and they said if you fail then try again, that’s a true lie because they have talent, they enjoy what they do and they have ability to do it

If anything hurts, avoid it, wait till it kills then its too late for you and your love ones

Doing things you don’t enjoy and out of your ability you and your love ones will suffer, your enemy would be in joy to see you and your love ones suffer in pain

Be sensible:

Do things only within your own ability

Do what you enjoy and enjoy what you do

Gift

Gift

This article is dedicated to my gifted student Alex

Everyone got their own gift

We have to develop our gift and strength and neglect our weakness

Gift is what we find interesting and find relatively easy success compare with others on.

For things we fail in we have to avoid and run far from them as they would drive us moody and ends in madness and self-destruction

Develop gift enjoyment process is a gift in itself, when we are self actualised self assured and found confidence pleasure and happiness in pursuing our gift that’s all that matters in life really.

Practice

Practice

All theories are from practice

Practice is the end of all theories

Kung fu is pass on in two ways, theories and practice

Kung fu was formed centuries ago with some mad moves with a lunatic beating another

The champion of all transform and transfer his moves into words articles instructions and diagrams, here forms theories and the knowledge bank for endless lunatic earning their living and many sending their kids to learn these mad moves to beat other little lunatics

All theories starts and ends with practice

So if you can practice and it works in real life that’s all that matters.

wrong

Wrong

There are many holy rules and bibles telling us what to do and what not to do

But it is not flexible and hard to live smoothly if we have to apply these rules to our everyday life

The system teach us these rules but when we follow them we find we live in pain and sorrow

When the rules fails to protect us and even harms us again and again then it is time to become flexible and override the system and all the rules to live smoothly.

works

Works

As long as it works it is ok to use any method

Personally has learn so many holy rules and not harm anyone but cause greatest harm to myself and if I am harmed I can do nobody any good.

Now I realise all rules must come to an end and override by practice

Aim of all rules is to practice and to be practical

No matter what I do, the only target is it works for me, if it doesn’t then all holy rules should go in the rubbish bin.

Puzzle

Life is like a puzzle

We all have different strengths and weaknesses

We fit together to form a society

Some fits well only with a few

Some fits well with many

Some say we are what we born

Some say we can be flexible and adapt to change

It is up to us to choose what to believe and to pursue.

Sushi

Life is like a sushi meal

A sushi is a mouthful but different mouthful cost different prices and gives us different comfort needs

Life is a mouthful at a time

Two benefit take the most

Two harm take the least

We have to learn how to earn in and spend out to obtain the minimal cost with the maximal comfort, that’s all about life really.

Desperate

When we r desperate thirst

A glass of water in front of us

No matter it is dirty or clean we would fight our life for it and drink it

To prevent this happen

Give yourself plenty time and choices for everything and everyone

When you have time you have choice

When you have choice you are never desperate.

faith

faith

u have faith u have peace

u dont have faith u dont have peace

the more money we have the less faith we have in people

con has to train themselves to have no faith in others

they finally lost faith in themselves and this calls mental illness

a person with luck is a person with peace

a person with peace is a person with faith

the biggest blessing and the biggest luck in life is to have faith and peace wherever whenever whatever however and whoever you are.

faith

faith

u have faith u have peace

u dont have faith u dont have peace

the more money we have the less faith we have in people

con has to train themselves to have no faith in others

they finally lost faith in themselves and this calls mental illness

a person with luck is a person with peace 

a person with peace is a person with faith

the biggest blessing and the biggest luck in life is to have faith and peace wherever whenever whatever however and whoever you are.

Strength

We all have something we are good at

We all have strengths

It is up to fate and destiny to lead us for self aware

With encouragement comparison and competition we gain confidence and success which with luck we can earn our dinner

We need a true friend that can give us self awareness encouragement and confidence for us to drive our way to the touch line

If you want a true friend, be a true friend to others first

What goes round comes round

Treat others as you like to be treated.

Angel

We are lost when we are too devoted to pursue and we don’t know how we are performing

Angels gives us true feedback encourage us analyse our strengths weakness opportunities and threats and gives us confidence to carry on our journey or hold us back when its too risky and danger to move forward

Devil gives us false feedback and wrong information and mislead us into traps for their own good and benefit

Start from me, I would be others angel, how about you?