Dear Mrs. A (renew version)
Experienced your sharing last night about you
son, feelings arising from bottom of my heart, try to share my view and
hopefully useful to you
From your sharing I feel that:
You are lack of appreciation, communication,
faith and respect
You have very limited appreciation,
communication, faith and respect over yourself and others especially ones close
to you
Your son like anybody else is full of talents
and gifts and you do not want to notice and admit this
You only choose to focus on his impairment and
to make yourself angry and beg for others pity
Everyone has different gifts and impairment, it
is up to you to choose what you focus on
Currently you only focus on impairments and
attracted by negative labels of yourself and others
You need to aware and practice to focus on
gifts and be attracted by positive labels of yourself and others
The world is full of good things and you need
to practice to aware them, appreciate and thankful for them
You need to observe and understand your son’s
feelings by learning to communicate with him
You do not appreciate and not thankful for
having a gifted son
You have no faith in your son
You disrespect your son
You have not yet found out the way to
communicate with your son so you do not understand why and how his feelings,
his thoughts and actions
You son seems to be a symbol of insult to you
You do not appreciate and not thankful for what
you have and what you not have
You only focus on his bad and never willing to
notice his good
You feel unsafe
You want to control everyone and everything and
when things and people out of your control, you have strong anxiety
You are highly alert at all times
You are extremely clever but extremely unwise
You are very poor in communication
You have poor interpersonal and social skills
You fire questions at who ever have a
conversation with you and make others pressurised, uncomfort and unease
You love others lay a pity on you by trashing
the image of your son
You created illusion to yourself and everyone
else that you love your son so much
The truth is you love yourself and you spoil
yourself with a greedy and selfish heart
You use the excuse that you love your son to
cheat yourself and to cheat the world to cover up the fact of you spoiling
yourself in order not to feel bad
You don’t want to lose him and feel bad so you
grab hold of him till he cannot breath and he hates that and that’s why he
punches you
You are being totally selfish
Stop being selfish
Let go
If you hate him why you grabbing hold of him?
Because you don’t want to get hurt, you control
him to fulfil your own greed and secure feeling and this is not love
If he knows all the maps and roads in Hong
Kong, surely he knows the way home, why following him around
Aren’t you being silly and making a fool of
yourself and your son?
That’s why your son hates you
Because you makes a fool of him and insults
disrespects and discriminates him
You are practicing and fulfilling your greed to
the extreme by sacrificing your son
So far he is just a tool for you to fulfil your
greed
Stop it
Let go
Communicate
Understand
Appreciate
Be thankful
Cherish
Faith
Respect
Let go
