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Wednesday, October 16, 2013

automatic negative thinking pattern source from others


Distorted Thinking Patterns (Cognitive Distortions)


Here’s the 10 distorted thinking patterns according to Dr. Burns.  Burns writes:

All-Or-Nothing Thinking – You see things in black-and-white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.

Overgeneralization – You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.

Mental Filter – You pick out a single negative defeat and dwell on it exclusively so that your vision of reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.

Disqualifying the positive – You dismiss positive experiences by insisting they “don’t count” for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.

Jumping to conclusions – You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion.

A. Mind reading. You arbitrarily conclude that someone is reacting negatively to you, and you don’t bother to check this out.

B. The fortune teller error. You anticipate that things will turn out badly, and you feel convinced that your prediction is an already-established fact.

Magnification (Catastrophizing) or Minimization- You exaggerate the importance of things (such as your goof-up or someone else’s achievement), or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny (your own desirable qualities or the other fellow’s imperfections). This is also called the “binocular trick.”

Emotional Reasoning – You assume that your negative emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are: “I feel it, therefore it must be true.

Should Statements – You try to motivate yourself with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if you had to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything. “Musts” and “oughts” are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When you direct should statements toward others, you feel anger, frustration, and resentment.

Labeling and Mislabeling – This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself: “I’m a loser.” When someone else’s behavior rubs you the wrong way, you attach a negative label to him: “He’s a goddam louse.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded.

Personalization – You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which in fact you were not primarily responsible for.

gifted notes book 61


默默耕耘
不問收獲
不問世事
淡泊名利
識貨之人
才懂欣賞

欣賞自己
父母師長
哲學心理
世界視野
兩文三語
獨立思考
醫卜星相
文藝科技
人際社交
人際網絡
知才善用


利益眾生

自信不是好嘢
凡事也好
凡事也壞
一銀兩面
任君選擇
多看好
鼓勵自己
為人己找個好借口
Learn to give good excuses
Flexible adapt fun
無所謂唔緊要
因每事也優強長

知眾生苦
欣賞眾生


正副交感


障礙的天才啟發中心



知人痛苦
自覺幸福


Try too hard

腦下皮層
過度敏感
神經緊張
情緒緊張

Transparent brain scan
Red flashing

神經敏感

善於精簡
表達溝通
知別人苦
欣賞人己
知己知彼
平安自在
富貴健康
以此心法
利益眾生
助己助人
自利利他


手心無劍
點先做到

手心無劍
手中有劍
手心皆劍
手中無劍
手心無劍


Matthew











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知別人苦
欣賞人己
滿足無求
無苦平安

知人己價
知己知彼
萬事勝意

安者無苦
不安者苦

滿足者富
無求者貴

滿足無求
者為富貴

知己知彼

知別人苦
欣賞人己

善解人意
替別人想

脾氣者真
認真者苦
笑看人生
知明人苦
眾生解苦
眾生平安
無慾無求


Ability
Aim
Target
Process
result





x

何謂富貴
富貴就是
知止定靜
和安慮得
不關己事
少去當頭
自知欣賞
不慳貪求
不嗔不癡
平𧗽適當

Dream big
Cost small

四字真言
富貴心法
富貴之靈
平安自在
祥和安寧

何謂富貴
不加計較
平安自在
聽其自然
助人自助
自利利他

富貴者也
泰山崩前
不動聲色
泰山如毛
宇宙珍珠
舉重若輕

要做富人
看大省小
計較者貧
專心看大
只專心大
不拘小節
能成大器
充足精神
體力十足
合理健康
合理定義
中庸平衡
彈性適應


Matthew

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Dream big
Cost small

Dream small
Cost big

板間山頂

不合理化合理效果


接受現在
接受限制
接受自己

在於廣告
真材實料

目標多高
人有多遠


聽其自然
過下曰晨
平淡一生

逆轉思維
正負皆好

不思善
不思惡

不打劫=不買六合彩





自己不算壞
別人不算好
世界沒好壞
沒真假比較
應無所生心


何謂病?
病是不懂欣賞。


有求便苦
無求便安
不足有求
滿足無求
不足尋求
滿足無尋
無尋得安
無求不得
安不尋求
滿足自在


醫生老師
最基本要
必需懂得
欣賞其客
學生病人
否則不配
為人師醫

病是短處
不懂欣賞
是為短處
本身是病

不懂欣賞
凡人事物
優強長處
為之病患

懂得欣賞
凡人事物
優強長處
為之智慧

Is Screwdriver ill or hammer ill?

Screwdriver n hammer

為人師長最基本資格是欣賞

Appreciate what u r 
Appreciate ppl n things as they r

Can be used as it is
Utilization

Screwdriver want to swop with a hammer

Screwdriver or hammer is right or wrong

Male or female is right

Not everything can be place in n be measured by the scale of right or wrong

P144

Bob n PSY
Sell fat boy

安就是不去尋找
不去尋找為之安

不安因不知現在好處
平安因知識現在好處
知足者常常平安自在
知足者知識現在好處
不知足者不平安自在
不知足者不知現好處
不安全因不滿足現在
不安全因尋找求平安
平安全因識滿足現在
平安全因不尋找平安

當你做到好似我咁
你便想當回你自己
by Paul

不尋找 就平安

欣賞珍惜
尊重信任
溝通

鬼才






Matthew

One doc notes me


Timeline 
factors
find and found


Help user
Files properties values utilize manager

作家app



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Utilize My strengths n my values

我的價值
缺優賣點
自己明白
欣賞接納
信任尊重


無人明白
人明就死


州長主席
deserve much much better than that 
知識價值賣點


Value n niche properties assets resources utilization 


平安價值
自在賣點

生下來
活下去
就是生活
by 小明


Matthew


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欣賞
製造機會 互相欣賞
Same target
Same aim
Create chance伯樂發揮 千里馬

識朋友同學同事互相欣賞
Family friends hobby learn work
Appreciate


工作學習興趣接觸社會
cafe learn work hobby  

Enjoy Hobby edu learn work

Together doing same thing have the same target somewhere in time companion

學習興趣工作朋友家庭


工聯會 cooking 
part time job read exercise garden swim music

Work learn hobby family friends classmate workmates 


病即缺被欣賞

Jw自我欣賞
Chu先欣賞別人 多聆聽
Poon
自信從做中建立
欣賞從實際形成

欣賞自信
DNA food drink environment 

欠缺欣賞

欣賞凡人事物
懂得欣賞別人

先欣賞人
才被欣賞


病是因不懂自我欣賞jw
因從小
未被欣賞
未被發掘展揮優強長處
所以無自信尊悲
所以不懂自我欣賞

Try too hard

Jw
自我欣賞 最為重要

Fw Rogers 不欣賞我
因我長不在此

當由小到大身邊每人也不欣賞你
你就會無自信尊悲不能自我欣賞

研究如一個人由出生一直有或無人欣賞成就會怎樣

伯樂千里馬
千里馬自我欣賞

無自信所以才需人欣賞
沒人欣賞所以沒有自信

有自信不需別人欣賞
沒人欣賞那會有自信

自我欣賞因為有自信
無自信怎能自我欣賞

自我欣賞因有自信
有自信因有人欣賞

要人欣賞
因無自信
無自信因
無人欣賞

無人欣賞
就無自信
無自信就
要人欣賞