Dear Thomas
In the questions and answers discussions on 24th, i draw a few gold bullets below and may be use to you:
care and control is different
you need to differentiate care and control and apply them when suitable
differentiate you want your son to enjoy or you fear he will not be able to enjoy life
if he enjoys extracurricular activities, that’s great, whatever we enjoy, that’s where our gifts are, you should encourage him to enjoy what he does
video games is not healthy but is teens trends, encourage him to do more outdoor exercise and outdoor group social hobbies with others to enlarge his network and better his communication
discuss with him the benefits of hobbies you suggest him to pursue
you fear son’s ability cannot earn his needs in future
you apply control to son and his actions makes you fear or peace, in other words, son is controlling you
he is an adult, he is independent, let him enjoy his life
give him freedom to fail
give him freedom to learn and to take responsibilities for himself
respect your son as an independent adult, he is Mr. Lee in society, treat him as Mr. Lee
control your own fear of your son cannot support himself, it is your horror imagination
don’t let your fear control you and your love ones
imagine you have passed away and you are a soul now, your son can no longer see you and you can no longer control him, would he be hopelessly poor as you have always worrying?
control your greed and your fear would be in control and your hatred would be in control
all bad things with souls originates from greed
hatred originates from fear originates from greed
you have a successful career but your greed drives you to control your son to be somewhat as successful if not more successful than yourself and that is very greedy and that’s how and why you fail
now you have ability to control your greed
you do not have ability to control your son because he is an respectful independent adult now
control your greed:
how?
most original way:
by heart
if you love your son by heart
if you love your love ones and you love yourself by heart...
your loving heart can overcome your evil greed
evil greed can be overcome by loving heart
why a person is more successful in career less successful in family?
greed makes a person successful in career but less successful in family.
strike a balance between the two is the key to peace all round
touching video story for you:
best wishes from mat
