孩子，请按照你的节奏前进！
家长们总是不停的催促的孩子，催着孩子“快点快点”、“赶紧做作业”、“赶紧学习”。孩子每天生活在家长催促之中，成为最基本和理所当然的生活状态。好像只有在孩子学走路的时候，家长有着极大的耐心，那个时候，家长总是鼓励孩子慢慢来。但当他们学会了走路，家长总是希望他们能快点走，甚至会有大人都忘了孩子会比我们走得慢，大步流星地在前面走，使孩子被迫一溜小跑地跟着。
家长的催促无疑是打乱了孩子自己的节奏，结果多半是越催越慢。通常，家长也是自己在先着急的情况下，开始催促孩子，传递的也是自己的紧张和焦虑。其实，教育就是一种慢的艺术，欲速则不达。
家长们总希望孩子按照自己的想法、节奏行事。其实，大人与孩子的生活节奏、生理节奏以及生命节奏都是大不相同的。孩子有自己的节奏，对他们而言，感觉最舒服、最顺畅、最有利的就是顺应自然的生理节奏。如果孩子的生活节奏过快，会影响身体的激素分泌，对身体和心理都会造成损害。
经常被打乱节奏的孩子，一般都会有早熟、易烦躁、耐性差的特征，或截然相反，表现为反应迟缓、自我压抑、对某些事物过分依赖。
家长除了要有耐心之外，还应该避免因为害怕孩子慢而替孩子去做很多事情。孩子是因为自己的不熟练所以才慢，如果家长没有从培养他们自己动手能力的角度考虑，就很可能去帮孩子做，这样只会剥夺孩子自己学习的机会。
家长应该尝试和孩子一起放慢这样做不仅事关家庭生活品质，而且对孩子的成长至关重要。孩子终究是要长大，他们也不可能永远按照自己的节奏生活，适应大家公认的某个时间标准便是他们在社会化的过程中必须完成的任务。而现在，家长只需要让孩子用自己喜欢的方式玩耍，以促进他把事物形象化、概念化，从而区分想象与现实，言语与行动。这一切能够使他发现自己并了解他人，最终形成对自我以及世界的认知。
Thursday, June 23, 2016
fear industries 230616
fear industries 230616
fear for unpeace and pursue for peace are the yin yang engine that keep the world going but would trash mankind ultimately
all businesses, deals and exchange are for profit, using fear and peace as a tool
clients are played around between fear and peace and drops out cash from their pockets
US is a place originates fear, industries like insurance, health and beauty, education certifications, laws and legal, IT updates, fashion, social glam, hotels and travel, luxury entertainments, everyone racing for the carrot of peace and under stick of fear
personally major in business and management, so for deals and exchange i love to discover and recover
china is twenty years behind Hong Kong, if Hong kong buddies visit china, beware of fooled by tricked that chinese play where appears in Hong Kong twenty years ago
the fool of US is displayed in US corner shop chain giant 7eleven
some years ago my relative from china visit us in Hong Kong, we passed by 7eleven corner shop and he just wonders and ask, i have never seen any of these products and services in china, do you hong kong people need these?
i explained to him by grabbing him some snacks, then he feel thirsty because of msg then he grabs a drink and ice-cream, he then feel sick i then show him some pills and medicine on the shelf, he then say, i need 7 eleven
US industries is pretty much a big scale, we see friends on facebook having nice stuff, we want to experience and get, we need to race to consume our cash otherwise we are a loner and left behind, we fear, we fear to be alone
for health and beauty, we fear illness and ugly, medical services advertise by creates fear
we feed of disgusting and ugly but it is a ghost deep in our heart, we need face, we need to be number one, we need to be better than others and give up your cash
you love your love ones, then give us cash to show you love them
if i earn a million per month and i use half a million per month to purchase services and products for me mum but never give her a cent or any care personally, am i her son?
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when me mum make me angry, my new saying is:
you are not my mum, my mum would not treat me as such
you are not my xx, my xx would not treat me as such
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