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Monday, August 26, 2013

Dear Thomas


Dear Thomas

In the questions and answers discussions on 24th, i draw a few gold bullets below and may be use to you:

care and control is different

you need to differentiate care and control and apply them when suitable

differentiate you want your son to enjoy or you fear he will not be able to enjoy life

if he enjoys extracurricular activities, that’s great, whatever we enjoy, that’s where our gifts are, you should encourage him to enjoy what he does

video games is not healthy but is teens trends, encourage him to do more outdoor exercise and outdoor  group social hobbies with others to enlarge his network and better his communication

discuss with him the benefits of hobbies you suggest him to pursue

you fear son’s ability cannot earn his needs in future

you apply control to son and his actions makes you fear or peace, in other words, son is controlling you

he is an adult, he is independent, let him enjoy his life

give him freedom to fail

give him freedom to learn and to take responsibilities for himself

respect your son as an independent adult, he is Mr. Lee in society, treat him as Mr. Lee

control your own fear of your son cannot support himself, it is your horror imagination

don’t let your fear control you and your love ones

imagine you have passed away and you are a soul now, your son can no longer see you and you can no longer control him, would he be hopelessly poor as you have always worrying?

control your greed and your fear would be in control and your hatred would be in control

all bad things with souls originates from greed

hatred originates from fear originates from greed

you have a successful career but your greed drives you to control your son to be somewhat as successful if not more successful than yourself and that is very greedy and that’s how and why you fail

now you have ability to control your greed

you do not have ability to control your son because he is an respectful independent adult now

control your greed:
how?
most original way:
by heart

if you love your son by heart
if you love your love ones and you love yourself by heart...

your loving heart can overcome your evil greed

evil greed can be overcome by loving heart

why a person is more successful in career less successful in family?

greed makes a person successful in career but less successful in family.

strike a balance between the two is the key to peace all round

touching video story for you:

best wishes from mat

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