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天才啟發中心 GIFTED SPARKLE CENTRE

Matthew Ma the Communicatist

溝通專家 馬碩鴻 

communication trainer

communication coach

溝通導師

溝通教練

電話 ∕ SMS / whatsapp / 留言

telephone / voicemail / text messages mailbox: 

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or

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明白難處

欣賞長處

能力需要價值

苦惱？

不安？

不和？

改善關係

溝通補習

對象：子女 父母 

謝謝你欣賞我長處

希望你明白我難處

資優啟發 Gifted sparkling:

佢未識同你溝通 你未明白佢 唔等於佢傻

你唔識貨 唔代表佢無價值

懂得欣賞 才是富有

任何人事物都有長處優點

有智慧的人把握發掘發揮

任何身邊人事物的長處優點

有智慧快樂自在者

懂得欣賞任何在其身邊人事物

把別人認為垃圾的人事物

潛能長處優點本質發揮出來

助己助人 自利利他

這就是神

馬碩鴻於二零一二年作品:

'神給眾生的禮物'

世上不存在瘋子 只有未學懂與他人溝通 而未成功讓別人明白了解知道其思想語言行為的人。

唔係佢傻，係你唔明白佢啫。

當您未明白了解知道一個人
究竟是你蠢？
是你詐蠢？
還是他瘋？
還是他裝傻？

任何關係著重 尊重 信任 溝通
溝通目的在互相明白了解知道互相思想語言行為的限制及需要

這世界不存在正常人 更沒有所謂大部分人 因正常和大部分只是歧視別人的借口 而兩者皆沒有一個統一確實的定義。

There is no lunatic on earth, there is only people that do not know how to communicate with others so others cannot understand them.

no one is mad or crazy, just because you do not understand them

When you have not yet understood a person:
Does it mean you are stupid and silly?
Or do you pretend to be stupid and silly?
Or would you say he is crazy and mad?
Or he is pretending to be crazy and mad?

Any relationship needs faith respect and communication

Communication makes us understand each others’ thoughts, speeches and actions, limitations and needs.

世事無常

求常者苦

降低要求

不秤自己

執着失去

放下得到

求安失安

不求得安

Poon: 肯替別人想

立即行動 不期望 不代表 不等於

請你尊重你自己

Label

Adj noun

即係等於 

形容名詞

代表標籤

比較分別

即係等於

相對平常

無法無相

本來如是

重要值得

人騙自己

才會被騙

興趣能力需要價值肯做

尊重信任欣賞珍惜溝通

苦處難處長處

優點強項長處

尊重信任欣賞

能力需要價值

相對不同相同

分別心平常心

互相溝通 忌認叻

欣賞珍惜 忌貪威
尊重信任 不用欺負
發揮價值 不需自卑

互相俾機會表現 發揮 發展

減少控制
減少要求
減少貪慾
安守本份

抗拒屈辱
建立自信
發揮所長

貪為萬惡之源

只要有光就會有影

只要有靈就會有貪

佢未識同你溝通 你未明白佢 唔等於佢傻

你唔識貨 唔代表佢無價值

要求高 達不到 感不安

學懂 心安 與 互相溝通 小福星
互相：

欣賞 珍惜 

尊重 信任 

鼓勵 支持
體諒 認同
肯定 接納

互相俾機會表現 發揮 發展

安守本份
抗拒屈辱
建立自信
發展所長

罪只有一種 就是不懂欣賞

福只有一種 就是懂得欣賞

The only sin is without Thankfulness

The only bless is with Thankfulness

多情病 Passionate disease

is named on 9th nov 2012

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助您 : 避過障礙 發揮天才 :

助人自助 vs 自利利他

欣賞 珍惜 尊重 信任 溝通 是任何關係基礎

思想 vs 語言 vs 行為

藝術 vs 語言 vs 哲學 vs 醫學 vs 科學 vs 文學 vs 教育 vs 科技

真心 真意 真誠

you can not teach a fish to walk : you need not teach a fish to swim.

Matthew Ma the Communicatist

溝通專家 馬碩鴻 

communication trainer

communication coach

溝通導師

溝通教練

電話 ∕ SMS / whatsapp / 留言

telephone / voicemail / text messages mailbox: 

9194 0869 (Hong Kong local calls) 

or

+852 9194 0869 (international calls from outside Hong Kong)

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or

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email:

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Concept of importance

Concept of importance

Everyone is unique, before birth we bring with us concepts from past lives, what we seen, heard, smelt, tasted, felt, incept, intake and learn, colors, sounds, temperatures, moods and feelings controls our every thoughts, speeches and actions thereafter and shape us into ‘us’ today.

Concept determines success and failure for every living things.

We think something or someone is good to us because we experienced it or learnt it from our experience in our history present or past lives of ourselves.

Advertisement and salesman who targets for the dollars in our bank accounts do whatever needed to “educate” us and track us towards our final action of handing over our cash and this is immoral or shall we say business has never been moral since the history of men especially under exploitation of modern mankind evolving and mutating more and more so from the past.

Concept can heal and concept can kill.

To heal we need to correct mistaken concepts, although we cannot draw a clean line between right and wrong but the rough guide is ‘what goes round comes round’ ‘treat others as you like to be treated’.

Education

Education

Education in ancient China is not popular, only the wealthy can afford to study, paper and books are expensive so only a tiny portion of population is educated.

After Sun Yet Sin revolution reform China, China opened its door from the age of Tang Xiao Ping and the launch of the internet, knowledge from outside world pours into China.

Chinese knowledge emphasis on morals and ethnics where western knowledge emphasis on money and power without any base on morals and ethnics. 

The less educated a person is the less morals he / she practices on his / her life, although under western education system many completed university but western education without any knowledge on morals making so call western well educated adults clever / smart but never wise.

They are equipped with weapons of knowledge, a bunch of uncivilised without moral yet well educated people use their advantages in law, business, finance and technology to control the world and they judge their success on money wealth and power to control over others weaker then them.

The system of strong beats the weak and weak beats the weaker in the raw jungle of man and disasters of immoral has begun causing lack of confidence, shamefulness and health imbalances upon the second generation of the world war two and beyond.

In the teachings of ancient Chinese masters of moralness there are many things we ‘can’ do but we ‘should not’ do, because eg we ‘can’ harm others feelings and sleep with endless woman but we ‘should not’ do it because by doing so would bring with it many negative consequences to who we love and the ones who loves us.

We ‘can’ harm the weak but we ‘should not’ do so because if we accept the concept of harming the weak, we are accepting the concept of we being harmed by the stronger.

‘What goes round comes round’, ‘treat others as you would like to be treated’ is the key to moralness of the Confucian Chinese teachings which is above any laws and bibles.

Bully

True strong would care for the weak, no one would stronger than them.

Fake strong would bully the weak and bully by the stronger in return.

Can and should not

Can and should not

There are many things we can do and within what we can do there are many we should not do. Although we have the ability to harm others in different way, shape or form but we should not do so.

‘Treat others as you would like to be treated’ is the key to most problems and crisis in our modern, “civilized” and yet immoral world of today.

‘Treat others as you would like to be treated’ is the key to financial disaster

Moral, ethnics and Confucianism

‘Treat others as you would like to be treated’

Confucianism is the solution to the global finance problem in the US and Europe and moral disaster of fake goods in China.

‘Treat others as you would like to be treated’ is above any laws and bibles.

If we can apply ‘Treat others as you would like to be treated’ on everyone we met and everything we do then our world would be better than heaven.

During the time I spent in the western part of the world I feel un-safe, unsettled and non-security as everyone mis-use their smartness and cleverness to trick and con others because in the west has no moral, no ethnics and without Confucianism, without exchanging role play with others.

In the west thoughts, speeches and actions are base on profits and for profits people can do anything and everything including harming others knowingly it is wrong and because everyone does it so it seems all right to do so. 

As in the parliament and court who ever won the debate or won the argument is right even if he harmed others eg the Opium war, the stolen goods in the British museum and the fair trade and free trade.

One of my mate was being sued because during he was drunk one night he injured others with a knife.

He felt he is innocent because he said when he was drunk he was in a confused state and should not be responsible for all actions he was not able to control knowingly.

What would you say to him if you are me.

I said, lets exchange the role play, now you are the one badly injured under a drunken man’s knife and the drunken man said he is innocent and is not entitled to any punishment, how would you feel?

Doctors, drugs / medicines and illnesses

Doctors, drugs / medicines and illnesses

Life has four main stages-birth, growing old, illnesses and death and only illnesses means pain to us.

All kinds of illnesses and imbalances to human today is yet a ‘myth’.

Doctors, medical people, tools and drugs are thought to help by creating a short term effect and many with hypnosis effects for a short period of time.

Some drugs can decrease pain for a period of time, some brings with them side effects which give ways to a even worse quality of life and lengthens the time where patients suffers from pains and others side effects ways of pain.

Please bear in mind:

There are many things are yet myths to human including health and illnesses where no one knows how to be healthy, how to heal and what causes the illnesses directly in the first place.

All we know is extremely limited, the only ones who knows the solutions are the cons.

Or shall we say ‘this is a world of myths...where only the cons knows the truth’.

Choice, do we have it and can we choose?

Choice, do we have it and can we choose?

We choose whats best for ourselves and for our love ones but can we actually choose and even do we have a choice in the first place?

Would you or anyone in the history of mankind would like to choose to be a failure, to be a patient, to be a criminal, to be someone humiliated and insulted by others?

Or would you choose to be the opposite extreme?

But why are there so many failures, patients and criminals exists on earth we might wonder.

The answer is ‘we do not have a choice’, there is no choice but Hobson’s choice.

We have the choice of to eat or not to eat and to breath and not to breath...what would you choose?

The quest of mental health

The quest of mental health

Dr. Chu believes, food and drink is the key to the wonderland of health.

What we eat and drink everyday controls our physical health including our brain functions in which controls our psychological and mental health.

Matthew Ma believes in the ‘factors theory’.

Ronald Ma gave an example of a horse racing gambling game...he stated: in order to win a bet on horse racing many ‘variable factors’ are took into account e.g. the wind speed and wind direction, the health of the horse, the breed, the training, the conditions of the horse, the length of the race, the ground conditions of the track, the number of track the horse is on etc, plus the most important factor is what we call ‘luck’ in which is uncontrollable.

Matthew apply ‘Ronald’s theory’ on life, especially on health and he came into a conclusion below:

Everyone and everything is unique because we all have a different history in which make us all consist of and made up of different / not identical factors, so that’s why we are all different and no matter how hard we try, we can never be identical...in sense of health, success and all other dreams and wishes.

Does God exists?

Does God exists?

Compare and contrast born everything we know.

Enlightenment is one, one means no yin and yang, no dad and mum, no sperm and egg, nothing is born or die, nothing exists or non exist.

God, Buddha once appeared on earth and left to us whats seems to us holy testimonds to help us purely because and purely due to and purely means there is pain and discomfort on earth.

Who brought these pain and discomfort to human and other living things on earth?

The answer is what we known as devil, devil is the opposite side / the dark side of God, Buddha and Allah.

Why is there a cure, why is there a medicine exist? It simply because and simply means there is something wrong, some illness and discomfort exist in the first place.

Think of it this way boys and girls: would there be a drug made to cure an illness or a disease that is non existance?

Or would there be a doctor specialise in / successful in / famous for curing patients that have nothing wrong in the first place.

Would there be any need of any God or religion of any sort if there is no pain or irritations on earth.

Who created these pain, irritations and discomfort on earth to earn our respect, faith and belief?

We may call it devil or we can call it God.

The catch is God, Buddha, Allah and devil are one.

Simply speaking we have good mood and bad mood, when we comfort we are God, when we discomfort we are devil...its all depends on us.

There is no God and no devil, so why are there so many miracles we might ask?

It is because when we believe God does exist we have created it, empowered it and power credited it out of nothing, if one of us believe in God exist one brain power has been credited to the so call God thing out of nothing.

If one million brains believe God does exists, that so call God thing has one million brain power and thats why it does seems so real to us. Vice versa for the fear of any God in any religion and the fear towards devil and dark arts of any sort.

We love to blame, we do not like to be responsible for our own actions, we are not confident thats why many of us created God to be responsible for us...we created it to bring away our sin (so you wish), to give ourself a reason to pursue what we pursue and to support what we do and execute, to fail, to ill, to come across any discomfort and difficulties, some created God to excuse themselves for their evil behaviour.

Because we would like something that has endless power to stand on our side, to look after and care for us, to support us no matter what we do...

We wish we are not responsible for any sin and we wish we are credited for and counted in for every joy because we would love to believe / belief God is with us against whatever we are facing even if we know what we are doing is wrong.

But the fact is and to conclude: everyone of us has to be responsible for all of our actions, there is a price to pay for everything, sooner or later, we have to pay up for everything we have done and consume...

Think of it like this: you open a restaurant for living and you are faithful to God...so God sends his children to you for meals and after they consumed the food and drink they point to the heaven and say to you: thank God for the meal and he pays the bill. How would you then feel? Bill?

history

history

mr. is a hard working and responsible boy from young age, he went to school and don’t want to let his parents down.

When he force himself too hard on study he became mysterious.

When the majority of this world does not accept mysterious, mr. finds there are many mysterious mr. ms. miss. and mrs. young and old in this world and united all can create a mysterious force which as there are increasingly mysterious food and drinks which enlarges the mysterious force and when the mysterious force becomes the majority and the minority are truly hopeless...

Mr. mister ma

Mr. mister ma

Some thoughts flow, some thoughts rush, some thoughts blow

To express my feelings and thoughts is my job, as to bring you to my mysterious world of thoughts and ideas is what i like to do and what i enjoy doing.

In the world of English, i can express simply, thoroughly, totally, wholly and explosively...leading you to a world of mister ma, more inclusively than 3 dimension but as many di-mension as i can mention in my mansion of mystery, cool full of temptation and desire yet with peace and balance, whole and quiet piece of land...or shall i call it the holy land of mister ma...

Zen curl

Zen curl

When we are in pain we are feeling pain now and feeling pain at present and feeling pain always, how can we practice zen? Because now is pain, we have no way out.

Solution is like a metaphor, we are surfing on the curl, our speed must be higher and faster than the curl in order to stay on it.

Key is to keep ourselves on the curl and ahead of the curl, when the curl shows we show, when the curl grows we grow, when the curl slows we slow.

We need to always be focus on one, focus on now, when we can focus on none then we are done.

Praise

We tends to praise the success and neglect the failure.

What truely needs support and praise are the failure ones and not the successful ones.

To a rich person, an extra dollar seems an extra weight in his pocket but to the ones in need, a dollar may mean the world to a group of people.

Chance

There are endless able people in this world, key is to find the right person at the right place in the right time.

Many talents are buried, there are endless powerful treasures buried and within everyone of us, we need to find out and let them shine.

Key is to find out out talents as early as possible, study bury talents, we must be aware and beware not to force our kids to learn, as they know what they like, we need to give them room to do what they like to do.

A mum once said ‘it does not matter if my kids cannot study well, as long as they can earn lots of money’.

吐盡恩義情 深幾許 寫下不朽香 江名句

label 15-7-11

label

We put label on things, people and matters from before we were born.

We create labels to help ourselves to learn and prevent injuries and avoid harm done to ourselves.

But when we reached a stage of saturation, we need to de-label.

Things (living or not), people and matter is how they are, they represent themselves, any other description to and for them would make them not true.

Some may ask, if we stop labeling and de-label all labels would we put ourselves in risks and harm?

The answer is no.

It is because in order to de-label successfully we must know the truth of every thing, people and matter

It is like when we learn a language or learn martial arts

At the beginning we have to repeat every word we learn, every move we punch or kick, but for a person who already learnt the language or martial art, he / she no need to think in order to respond or react.

Or put it like that some teachers are very forgetful, he needs his students to wear name labels in order to know their name to ask them questions but some name label are too small to read as the classroom is so big.

Some teachers can remember every of his students names and can remember every students background so his students no need to wear labels, when the teacher chat to his students he do not need to call their names as he can remember, respond and react due to that students background.

By de-labeling we no longer need the help of the labels for us to get to the truth of others and ourselves as every thing, person and matter represents themselves and we can respond and react most naturally without thinking and without recalling any history as we are in the state of none, done, one, empty and some may call this enlightenment.

Ten stages of difficulty

Ten stages of difficulty

We assume all living creatures have different wants and needs

The one and only and the ultimate need we pursue is comfort

In order to gain comfort we need to pass through ten stages of difficulty

We all have ten stages of difficulty within us on different things, peoples and matters, some we find easy but some we find difficult

Key is to achieve the key ones which are easy to us, as difficulties would not change but we can change what we look for

Some’s difficulties is to gain comfort and that’s the most difficult one for all of us

Some found comfort in success, in power, in love but some just found comfort in health

Can we be comfort without health?

Somethings are difficult for others but may not be difficult for me...vice versa

We have to learn to let go and not hold onto our needs, we do not need anything to gain comfort...we can be comfort without anything

It is because we put an equal sign between comfort and health so we can never reach comfort before achieving good health

Do not put an equal sign
Do not label comfort with labels

Comfort is comfort on its own and comfort does not need any labels to represent itself

Respect comfort
No labels

comfort 10-7-11

comfort 10-7-11

comfort is our one and only ultimate eternal target aim and goal

from birth we try our best to obtain comfort
comfort can be gained by temperature, humidity, brightness, mood, physical, mental, psychological state

our every thoughts, speech and action are targeted to reach comfort for ourselves and for our love ones

we earn money, power because we think they are bring us comfort

we believe in religions and friends because they can provide us with comfort

we wear nice clothes, lives in luxury house and drive nice car because we think they can bring us comfort

we are in love because we can exchange comfort

comfort is one, the one and the only one, the ultimate and the eternal one thing we need and we look for

we can give up anything and everything to earn or to gain comfort, heaven and buddha’s world we are told can provide us with eternal comfort and peace so many nuns and monks gives up many things to try to gain this promised comfort after this life which may or may not even exist as no one can be sure of so far in human’s history
no one wants to harm others, all we want is comfort, some in order to gain their own comfort they sacrifice others, they are willing or some not willing to harm others but they have no choice.

selfish is a noun, we are selfish, we would put our own comfort in front of even the ones we love and care.

we need comfort, we would do anything and everything needed to gain comfort

all living creatures are in search of comfort, balance and comfort, all things (living and non living) are in search of balance

a balance diet can provide us with a balance physical, mental and psychological health which can provide us with comfort and peace all round

some comfort are short term, some comfort are long term
taking fries can provide us with a meal time comfort but then cause us a week discomfort of pain in our tongue and mouth hall.

working over time makes us tired and discomfort for a few hours but exchange with money which if we use it well can exchange with some other comfort to compensate

wise people use short term discomfort to earn long term comfort

dull people use short term comfort exchange with long term discomfort

having sex with a different partner every night can bring us with short term comfort but also comes with virus and disease which causes long term pain and discomfort

taking unprescribed drugs can bring us with a few seconds high but brings with it brain damage which cause us to have to be a long term drug taker which is a life time discomfort exchange with a few seconds of high.

gambling, drinking are pretty much same as drugs and sex abuse.

短語細讀 source from the net

短語細讀

有空讀讀下面的短語，有時真還有點意思。

1、世界上難以自拔的，除了牙齒，還有愛情。

2、廢話是人際交往的第一句話。

3、現實中人們用真名講假話; 虛擬中人們用假名講真話。

4、痛苦本來就是清醒的人才能擁有的享受。為痛苦而清醒，為幸福而糊塗。糊塗者幸福。

5、所謂長大，就是你知道那是什麼事，所謂成熟，就是你知道後故意說不知道。

6、感情經得起風雨，卻經不起平淡; 友情經得起平淡，卻經不起風雨。

7、願意留下來跟你吵的人才是真正愛你的人。在乎你才爭才吵。留下來的是不離不棄。

8、謊言與誓言的區別在於：一個是聽的人當真了，一個是說的人當真了。

9、回憶是通往寂寞的牢。

10、對自己好點，因為一輩子不長，對身邊的人好點，因為下輩子不一定能碰到。

11．人不可能把錢帶進棺材，但錢能把人帶進棺材。

12． 當你覺得保守一個秘密比傳播一個秘密更有價值時，你就成熟了。

13． 智力测验就是看你笨到什么程度。

14． 偷一个人的主意是剽窃，偷很多人的主意就是研究。

15．兩個男人追一個女人，用情淺的那個先放棄; 兩個女人追一個男人，用情深的那個先放棄。

16．古代爱情故事多，當代爱情事故多。

17． 女人應該注意這些信號：他殷勤，那是他剛剛愛上你; 他笨拙，那是他深深愛著你，他從容，那是他已經厭倦你。

18． 婚姻的難處在於我們是和對方的優點談戀愛，卻和他的缺點生活在一起。

19． 旅行就是从自己呆腻的地方到别人呆腻的地方去。

20．還能衝動，表示你還對生活有激情，​​總是衝動，表示你還不懂生活。

21．出问题先从自己身上找原因，别一便秘就怪地球没引力。

22．人生没有彩排，每天都是直播，不仅收视率低，而且工资不高。

23．你有什麼不開心的事？說出來讓大家開心一下。

24．幸福是什么？医院没我家病人，牢房没我家犯人。

25．失戀，痛苦，挫折，失敗......如果這些從來沒有經歷過，人生未免不豐富，若是次數太多，又豐富了別人。

26．很多人連自己的鄰居都不認識，卻對地球外有沒有外星人極為關心。

27．大多数人想要改造这个世界，但却罕有人想改造自己。