無形容詞 無名詞 no label no adjective no noun

無形容詞 無名詞

no label no adjective no noun

無形容無名稱

無相對無分別無比較

無代表無標籤

無量度無計算

無規矩無規則無規律

無限制無法規

無標準無規範

無空間

無時間地方人物

無法理情

無情緒情感情理

無貪嗔癡

無苦

無問題無煩惱

無身心靈

無相

無你無我無眾生

無福祿壽命運

無生老病死無成著壞空

no n none

no n none

‘it all seeded n started from adjectives and nouns that you put on things to make it come true

stop using adjectives and nouns labels is the key to your locked cell’

ghosts cannot scare babies

you must learnt what a ghost is before ghosts can scare you

we are so happy during baby times, the older we get, the less happy we become, why?

because from birth onwards we learn to put adjectives and nouns labels on anything and everything

we learn different rules and measurements to measure and compare ourselves with

things become relative, yin and yang, black and white, right and wrong and we become happy and sad with questions and problems arising

our memory bank store more and more bad experiences and feelings, in order to prevent them from happening again, we become cold blooded and freeze up our heart feelings, to feel good and for self benefit, we can do anything and everything needed 

if you become so ill that your soul mind and feelings is jailed, my method is for you:

you feel bad?

what is bad?

bad comes to life when you describe it with the adjective bad and with a noun of yourself relate to it

your brain trace back to the memory bank of model responses and feelings to make you feel truly bad with related bad thoughts speeches and actions correspond to your adjectives and nouns effects from every part of you expressing and acting these actions to express your feelings

it all seeded n started from adjectives and nouns that you put on things to make it come true

stop using adjectives and nouns labels is the key to your locked cell

no adjective no noun no label

no adjective no noun no label

“adjectives and nouns labels controls n jails our mood and soul

to jail break, stop using adjectives and nouns labels

full stop”

from birth we started to learn adjectives, nouns and labels anything and everything we know

as we get to around 30 years old, our adjectives nouns and labels bank is exploding with many ill meanings and bad experiences links to them which drag us down

adjectives nouns and labels is the seed which grows roots stem leafs etc

when we use adjectives and nouns to label people matter n stuff, we traces through the roots to the fruits of good and bad experiences stored in our memory which effects our mood with thoughts speeches and actions which controls us

we have soul so we have mood

soul have mood due to these nouns and adjectives labels 

adjectives and nouns labels controls n jails our mood and soul

to jail break, stop using adjectives and nouns labels

full stop

苦惱？ 不安？ 不和？

苦惱？

不安？

不和？

改善關係

溝通補習

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symbolic

symbolic

everything represents themselves

when we hear someone swear, scream, shout or hit us, we would be very angry and revenge, hitting them back or something

if we are a baby, would that be different?

yes, we don’t know the words, the sound and the action represent

they are just feelings, when it hit us, it hit us, then its gone

as we grow old, our mind are full of labels

this mean that and that mean this, we become more and more messed up and confused

actually, what we feel is what we feel

it hit us, it hit us, its gone, its gone

no symbolic

no relation

no memory

light life

zen

now

now

flexible, here and now

adapt to change any moment

accept and appreciate limitations

communicate, appreciate, cherish, respect and faith

communication is needed between souls

if we cannot change, we should adapt

we should accept now and utilize what we have

many use communication advantages to benefit themselves over ones less able to communicate than themselves 

many communicate well but others pretend not getting the message for their own good

wise men knows feelings of others and themselves and make others and themselves feel good as a result and target

clever and smart guys knows the feelings of themselves and others but they choose to benefit themselves and sacrifice the feelings of others

dull boy don’t know the feelings of themselves and others and they harm others and themselves by doing not appropriate actions with their raw feelings.

write straight from heart and never check what i write...this is matthew ma

self II

self II

when Jon’s parents divorce they feel guilty when they face Jon and they use cash n luxury goods to exchange for Jon’s acceptance and forgiveness

no matter Jon accept or reject the cash and goods will do no difference to the decision, fact and result of his parents separation

in other words, Jon’s parents love themselves more than they love Jon

shall Jon accept cash and goods?

key is the cash and goods is symbolic for contract of acceptance of exchange for forgiveness which is not quite right and fair

Jon’s parents is responsible for forever for this damage done to Jon and no matter what they do they can never get even with Jon

cash and presents does not equal to getting even

what can Jon do?

Jon can do nothing but accept the limitations of the selfishness of human including his parents

If one day he is dad of others he could love his children more than he love himself.

self

self

Jon’s parents use money and luxury goods to exchange Jon’s acceptance of their divorce

Although what Jon truly need is a family but this cannot come true because his parents put their own feelings and benefits before jon’s

they love themselves more than they love Jon

Jon can refuse or accept the money but both ways will do absolutely no difference to the decision of separation of his parents and will do no difference to parents put the importance of themselves before Jon

same situation with my parents, they will never change, they will never put me before their own feelings and benefits

if i accept what they want to give me or if i refuse what they want to give me will do absolutely no difference to the order they put themselves in front of me

everyone put themselves before others, no matter how close the relationship

even family and love ones, this is human.

改善關係 溝通治療

苦惱？

不安？

不和？

改善關係

溝通治療

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苦惱？

不安？

不和？

改善關係

溝通治療

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改善關係

苦惱？

不安？

不和？

改善關係

溝通治療

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Mental illness 精神病 is renamed as 多情病 Passionate disease By matthew ma On 9th nov 2012

Mental illness 精神病 is renamed as
多情病 Passionate disease
By matthew ma
On 9th nov 2012

Dear Mrs. A (renew version)

Experienced your sharing last night about you son, feelings arising from bottom of my heart, try to share my view and hopefully useful to you

From your sharing I feel that:

You are lack of appreciation, communication, faith and respect

You have very limited appreciation, communication, faith and respect over yourself and others especially ones close to you

Your son like anybody else is full of talents and gifts and you do not want to notice and admit this

You only choose to focus on his impairment and to make yourself angry and beg for others pity

Everyone has different gifts and impairment, it is up to you to choose what you focus on

Currently you only focus on impairments and attracted by negative labels of yourself and others

You need to aware and practice to focus on gifts and be attracted by positive labels of yourself and others

The world is full of good things and you need to practice to aware them, appreciate and thankful for them

You need to observe and understand your son’s feelings by learning to communicate with him

You do not appreciate and not thankful for having a gifted son

You have no faith in your son

You disrespect your son

You have not yet found out the way to communicate with your son so you do not understand why and how his feelings, his thoughts and actions

You son seems to be a symbol of insult to you

You do not appreciate and not thankful for what you have and what you not have

You only focus on his bad and never willing to notice his good

You feel unsafe

You want to control everyone and everything and when things and people out of your control, you have strong anxiety

You are highly alert at all times

You are extremely clever but extremely unwise

You are very poor in communication

You have poor interpersonal and social skills

You fire questions at who ever have a conversation with you and make others pressurised, uncomfort and unease

You love others lay a pity on you by trashing the image of your son

You created illusion to yourself and everyone else that you love your son so much

The truth is you love yourself and you spoil yourself with a greedy and selfish heart

You use the excuse that you love your son to cheat yourself and to cheat the world to cover up the fact of you spoiling yourself in order not to feel bad

You don’t want to lose him and feel bad so you grab hold of him till he cannot breath and he hates that and that’s why he punches you

You are being totally selfish

Stop being selfish

Let go

If you hate him why you grabbing hold of him?

Because you don’t want to get hurt, you control him to fulfil your own greed and secure feeling and this is not love

If he knows all the maps and roads in Hong Kong, surely he knows the way home, why following him around

Aren’t you being silly and making a fool of yourself and your son?

That’s why your son hates you

Because you makes a fool of him and insults disrespects and discriminates him

You are practicing and fulfilling your greed to the extreme by sacrificing your son

So far he is just a tool for you to fulfil your greed

Stop it

Let go

Communicate

Understand

Appreciate

Be thankful

Cherish

Faith

Respect

Let go

應每次做愛 投資新細袋

應每次做愛
投資新細袋

Dear mrs A

Experienced your sharing last night about you son, feelings arising from bottom of my heart, try to share my view and hopefully useful to you

From your sharing I feel that:

You need to observe and understand your son’s feelings by learning to communicate with him

You do not appreciate and not thankful for having a gifted son

You have no faith in your son

You disrespect your son

You have not yet found out the way to communicate with your son so you do not understand why and how his feelings, his thoughts and actions

You son seems to be a symbol of insult to you

You do not appreciate and not thankful for what you have and what you not have

You only focus on his bad and never willing to notice his good

You feel unsafe

You are highly alert at all times

You are extremely clever but extremely unwise

You are very poor in communication

You have poor interpersonal and social skills

You fire questions at who ever talks to you and make others uncomfort and unease

You love others lay a pity on you by trashing the image of your son

You created illusion to yourself and everyone else that you love your son so much

The truth is you love yourself and you spoil yourself with a greedy and selfish heart and you use the excuse that you love your son to cheat yourself and the cheating the world for cover up to feel good

You don’t want to lose him and feel bad so you grab hold of him till he cannot breath and he hates that

Stop being selfish

Let go

If you hate him why you grabbing hold of him?

Because you don’t want to get hurt, you control him to fulfil your own greed and secure feeling and this is not love

You are practicing and fulfilling your greed to the extreme sacrificing your son

He is just a tool for you to fulfil your greed

Let go

Communicate

Understand

Appreciate

Be thankful

Cherish

Faith

Respect

Let go

Arts

Arts

Hong Kong is a place with a wide variety and mixtures of cultures

But Hong Kong citizens drives too hard and forget to appreciate and thankful for what we work for

We have plenty of talented peoples in different fields especially artists in the artistic creative and innovative industry

But without public awareness government and public support our talent is buried, even if we noticed where our talents lie we would not believe in ourselves that can achieve anything with it

Talent cannot and need not be taught

We need talented people and let them feel free to create

Everyone of us has a free mind that’s  enable us to create

Lets be thankful

Lets sparkle our gift

Lets create  

佢未識同你溝通 你未明白佢 唔等於佢傻 你唔識貨 唔代表佢無價值

佢未識同你溝通 你未明白佢 唔等於佢傻

你唔識貨 唔代表佢無價值

只要有光就會有影 只要有靈就會有貪

只要有光就會有影
只要有靈就會有貪

欣賞 珍惜

欣賞
珍惜

形容他的行為給他聽 就是停止惡行最佳法

形容他的行為給他聽
就是停止惡行最佳法

人總喜歡在誠實的地方當虛偽的人 又總喜歡在虛偽的地方當誠實的人

人總喜歡在誠實的地方當虛偽的人
又總喜歡在虛偽的地方當誠實的人

自由 就是 不理後果 瀟灑 即是 不付責任

自由 就是 不理後果
瀟灑 即是 不付責任

何以不貪? how to stop greed?

何以不貪? how to stop greed?
有無人知? anybody knows?

心安小福星

心安小福星

互相溝通
欣賞珍惜
尊重信任
發揮價值

互相俾機會表現 發揮 發展

減少控制
減少要求
減少貪慾
安守本份

抗拒屈辱
建立自信
發展所長

貪為萬惡之源

大時代巨輪滾到現在 在香港這片樂土上 每人也各有各忙 彷彿巳遺忘了自己的passion 與理想, 在我們心中的海闊天空 就只有偶巳與知音分享 才有活現的空間…

大時代巨輪滾到現在 在香港這片樂土上 每人也各有各忙 彷彿巳遺忘了自己的passion 與理想, 在我們心中的海闊天空 就只有偶巳與知音分享 才有活現的空間…

Communication is about expressing and understanding feelings.

Communication is about expressing and understanding feelings.

Unconditional love

There is no unconditional love not even with God and us

Imagine if the price for God helping you is he will turns into devil after helping you he would not do it

By helping us, he feels good, that’s a condition and the thing he pay his price of helping us for

Many say why I do everything for him or her let alone family members, friends or even someone we don’t know and he or she treat me so bad and I keep going pouring out my unconditional love, oh I am so great or I am so silly

You are not silly nor great, you are just greed for the feeling for feeling good or like the feeling of others praying or praising you or laying a pity on you

So anything and everything is a deal, feeling is priceless, if you greed for good feeling, some even pay their life for it but we often forget neglect and don’t aware the good feeling we get, we only know what they give, never realise what we get and that’s tragedy

It is fair and it is square

My dear friend and my dear God.

Communication 281012

Chinese families is very poor in communication

From mood problems to world problems starts with poor communication

Learning is about communicating well

Communication is about messages going in and out of our brain

Peace of mind is about communication

Peace is about communication

Happiness is about communication

Mental illness and cancer due to lack of communication skills

Suicide due to no communication

Every soul needs to learn to communicate to be free

Insults disrespect and discrimination originates from poor communication

Some thinks they are good in communication but actually they don’t have a clue in communication

Communication is about problem solving

Communication consist of questions and answers

No one can survive without communication

Respect and faith is the best form of communication

Thankfulness and appreciation is good for communication

Poor communication makes us moody and frustrated

Good communication makes us relax and enjoy

Destruct and self destruct due to poor communication

We are linked together by communication

Brainwashing is one way communication

One way communication drives us mad

One way communication is not sustainable

Only fools use one way communication

One way communication is negative and destructive

Dual way communication is respectful healthy and constructive

Friends is a good role for communication

Failure due to poor communication

Every successful person are brought up by people with good communications skills and with good heart

If you are good in communications you have a good heart

If you like communication, you love yourself and the world

You would suffer if you don’t know how to communicate

Success is about communication

Praying is about communication

Media is about communication

Business is about communication

Arts is about communication

IT is about communication

Politics is about communication

Every soul needs communication

Anything and everything needs communication

Illnesses is about poor communication

Medical care needs good communication

Education needs good communication

Relationship needs good communication

Friendship supports by communication

Transport is a form of communication

Computer and telephone is a tool for communication

Audio video photo and text are different forms of communication

We are a tool for communication

We cannot live without communication

Meaning and purpose of life is about communication

何以不貪得安？

何以不貪得安？
明天理
信神修佛何需貪
一切皆緣
有緣則來
無緣則去
不需也不可強求
隨緣隨遇則安

How to end greed?

How to end greed?

If you greed, you are not peace

If you peace, you are not greed

We are sensitive to different things starting from birth, when we become too sensitive on certain things and it severely affect our daily life, this is call ill and some seek treatments educations and further solutions

Communication social and interpersonal skills is key to any souls

Autism gifted super high IQ and mental patients lack communication skills makes them lost touch to and misunderstood by the majority

Communication is about in and out of messages from and to our brain

We get insults disrespects and discrimination if we don’t know how to communicate

Communication can bring us good family friends relationship and career and everything we need

Communication is key for learning and for explore and exploding our own inner gifts and strengths

Communication is about thankfulness and appreciation

With a thankful heart and appreciate everyone every matter and everything around you, you will be peace

Peace is not to control

Control forms anxiety

Control is greed

Greed is not peace

Peace is having no greed

The less you control, the more peace have

The more you control, the less peace you have

Greed comes with fear and hatred

Fear and greed

Personally was a perfectionist

I greed

I fear

I hate

I look for perfect

I need to win ten out of ten first hit

So I never do anything because I fear of losing

I wait till the best moment to make the 100% success hit but it never comes so I keep waiting and rotting

Anything include successful relationship and successful career is not 0 or 100% win or lose success or fail

It is a natural flow of fate

Believe in bite size

Believe in bit by bit

Nothing ever comes and goes 100%

Everything comes and goes gradually

We need to build up bit by bit

For good things, never say it too little and not do it

For bad things, never say it too little and do it

Baby learning theory

0-3 years learns everything quickest

3-8

8-12

13-18

18-24

24-30

Slows fragile non flexible and moulded along the age

Our biggest enemy is ourselves, our own fear, fear of losing, failing and getting hurt and not believing we can recover from injury and not believing we can achieve.

Baby learning is by all senses

Personally hate school learning especially grammar.

I love baby learning especially in languages with both success in English and mandarin.

When I see my mate james, he is pointing to something round in red color and he created sound in his throat and mouth shape as I observe and listen ‘red ball’

So I recorded his sound waves and mouth shape motions movements videos in my brain

Next time I see the same color and shape thing, I recall these info in my brain

These info in my brain send replica orders to my throat and mouth to produce same sounds and motions…red ball

This is how I learn languages quickly

But key is you need to find a friend that would not say you are wrong

Your mate must be keep on chatting with you as flows and never correct you because if he/she stops to correct you or repeat, your confidence will shatter.

Intuition直覺

Intuition直覺

Intuition is when we sense and receive messages

Signals sends to our brain

Brain calculates for best solutions to react and response

Then action response and react

All these step happen in millionth of a second in which we are not quick enough to realise or aware or believe it is true.  

Baby talk

Own a pet or owning a baby

Most people would use baby talk and pet talk to satisfy their own desire of being a control freak

I am adult

I am master

I am owner

I own you

I teach you

I train you

Listen to me

I am right

You are my pet

You are my baby

I shape you

I control you

You need to be how I want you to be

I know what I am doing and you don’t

I am better than you, although the world seems tough but at least I am tougher than you

I protect you

I have value

I have purpose in life

I am stronger than at least you

I am more success at least compare to you

I am clever at least compare to you

The truth is:

You are living in your dream and you drag your pet and your baby’s life along into the dark hole of your life created by generations of your family causing endless social problems to the world

You need to LET GO

Let go to set yourself and your love ones free.

LET GO

Obstacles

Obstacles

Learning obstacles may seen as one of the most disastrous obstacles in everyone of us especially in childhood.

We are all unique

We all have different gifts and obstacles

We are sensitive to different things

We all learn differently

We all have different learning patterns

We all have different learning styles

We all need to tailor made to measure our learning style to learn efficiently

We need to find out and know well our own gifts and obstacles in order to learn and grow happily

We need to observe and discover our best learning styles in order to enjoy learning and development

Learning should be a relaxed enjoyment

Learning should not be stress frustrated despair pressurized nor destructive or negative

We start to find out best way of learning out of school

Traditional schools is a chips factory but we are all potatoes

We want to be hand cut chips

We need to be respected but firstly we have to respect ourselves by putting away our greed

Schools is the graveyard for creativity and innovation dreams and free thinking

We need to enjoy learning and enjoy whatever we do.

If we hate something, DROP IT, QUIT IT, SLAP IT, SLAM IT, DUCK IT, FUCK IT

FULL STOP

Relationship

Relationship

Relationship is not ON/OFF button

Relationship is the Sun, the Moon, the Stars and the Sky.

Love is not Yes/No answer

Love is not Win/Lose game

Love is not control

Love is not to own

Love is not nervous stress anxiety

Love is not only for sex

Love is not a plan

Love is not one way street

Love is a relaxed comfort and peaceful feeling you enjoy

Love is to give out a relaxed comfort and peaceful feeling

Love comes slowly gradually unexpectedly

Love comes and goes naturally

Love never comes suddenly

Love is learn to give

Flexible

Flexible

Adapt n flexible are good but also means lack of confidence

Winners has strong adapt n flexibility try their best but key is to know when to give up n let go n not to take on others responsibilities till you breakdown or drop dead

Confidence can save you also can kill you

Confidence means you believe in yourself n believe in everything you do is absolutely right

Its lucky you got the direction right with confidence but what if you get it wrong and you still think you are right and you are in power or in control, you will kill everyone in your family or in your team.

Learning

Learning

Learning in school and university meant a great bored and pain to me even in the UK

Reason I found out after almost five years I left education is everyone including meself has gifts and obstacles in our personality and life include learning styles and ways

We could not exactly call these illness coz illness is just a word to describe certain so call minorities in which there is no fixed sample numbers to state what is majority and what is minority

Everyone is unique

We are all unique

We all have our own unique gifts and obstacles

Let not praise too much when we found something good nor blame too much when we found something bad coz it is just as it is

No one is normal

No one is majority

No one is winner

It is all relative

When we do not control by labels

That’s when we are in peace

We follow rules because we are greed

When we greed we are not settled and have no peace

Want peace?

Lessen the in and out labels and messages from our sense to our brain

When messages lessen and die down and the dirt settled at the bottom, the clean clear water on top is available for us to enjoy

It is peace.

Communicatist 溝通專家 馬碩鴻

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